Outrageous Happiness

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Everybody’s doing it. Consciously or not ~ we’re all trying to be happy.

Joy. Delight. Contentment. Love, peace and harmony. It’s a basic urge, in varying degrees of intensity depending on our genetic makeup, manifesting in different ways, but it’s there. Elusive. Sneaky. Not completely reliable.

So, this is a test. I’m calling it the “Outrageous Happiness Experiment”.

It started after a friend gave me a book. (Ah, the power of the written word in action, yet again!) It’s the true and rather amazing account of the extraordinary life of Tracy Evans*, a physician’s assistant who decides to follow God wherever He leads; Tracy calls it “radical faith”.

Towards the end of this adventurous read, feeling both uplifted and somewhat inadequate, I had an inspiration; something I could apply to my own life: why not radical happiness? Kind of like positive thinking on steroids. Because at the root of positive thought lies a certain amount of faith, and trust, and hope. And if you know anything about me by now (whether you know me personally, or have read my posts for a while), it’s that I’m a staunch optimist and a huge, huge, believer in the power of thought to shape both ourselves and our world.

Being a staunch optimist doesn’t necessarily mean wearing rose-colored glasses – I readily admit to the stray string of curses when a driver cuts someone off, or the random rage about the digitally over-stimulated age we live in. I also confess that after watching half an hour of the news, the cynic in me comes roaring to the surface, feeling helplessly disturbed by the nature of the human beast ~ or more to the point, the ones that make headlines. Just the mention of it, my blood can start to boil – with nowhere to flow to.

So I go back, as I always must do, to what I can do in my world, and what each of us can do for our little corners of the planet, period. If everyone paid attention to honoring positive values by living them, what a better place the world would be. (Reminiscent of my 52 Weeks of Peace message.) In the face of the madness of the world at large, throwing bucket loads of good stuff at it seems the only sane route ~ not to mention, a pretty potent force.

So that’s where I go. I bring out the pen, the paper, or play a tune on the piano to bring the boiling blood back to normal temps. Tend some flowers. Slow down. Do something nice for a stranger. Practice what I preach. Watch my thoughts. Bend my mind to the sun, open my heart to light and more light.

And yet, even with the best of intentions, challenges to our happiness quotient, our “positive thinking” efforts and our spiritual well-being, can pop up like militant weeds after a spring rain, threatening to overrun our mind’s well-tended garden. The usual culprits like setbacks with money and health can hit you right between the eyes without an ounce of compassion. Just making air-travel plans these days can launch an onset of anxiety. And yep, other people, even (or especially) those we love, can take our mood on a quick virtual trip to an emotional amusement park ride.

No one said life would be easy.

It’s also curious, this life business. Just when you think you’ve got more character than you thought possible, along comes more character-building opportunity! …. And so it goes, and keeps on going, and we keep living and learning and growing and changing until our proverbial time is up.

And since I figure I have a long time before my number is called, I want to live it well! I also figure a lot of that is up to me. It suppose it could be in the stars. It might already be planned out, pre-destined. Heck, it could be luck of the draw. But on the chance I have some say in all this, I might as well take the reins in whatever way I feel I can.

So who’s in? For a year, I’m gonna give it my best shot, and invite you to do the same. I’m going to give my positive thinking practice a hefty dose of adrenalin, each and every morning. Supplements throughout the day as needed. The key here is going overboard. Crazy optimism. Being outrageously positive.

An aside: Just this morning I was put to the test. You know, kinda like when your happy place plummets from a 9 to a 2 in under a minute. I thought, oh the hell with it. Who am I kidding with this “Outrageous Happiness” idea. Isn’t it enough just managing daily life sometimes? How will I sustain a radical level of positivity?

Then I thought, well this is just perfect, isn’t it? Any time is perfect. And at any time we might trip up. It’s (of course) what we do with that stumble. The point isn’t to walk around with a smile plastered to your face or pretend bad things don’t happen, or that as a human being, you don’t have ups and downs and a whole array of complex emotions at any given time. The point is to observe, and find a point of light to move forward from.

Personally, this has been a very weird year so far. Lots of transition, some dramatic shifting going on. The best way I can sum it up is to say that at some points I feel absolutely certain I’m supposed to toss up my hands and say, “Okay Universe, have at it. Whatever it is you have planned for me here, I’ll try to get out of the way so you can do your wonderful thing.”

Can’t say I know how it’ll play out, but approaching it with a ridiculously happy intention seems like a good idea. It’ll be interesting to look back a year from now, and see where the experiment has led ~ or if it’s really not in my hands at all.

The world is a mess. What better time to shake things up with some unexpected happy? If you want to try an “outrageous happiness” commitment in your life, too, I’d love to have you join me. Let’s get this party started! How amazing can we be?!

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Stay tuned. Positive, possibly outrageous, updates to follow.

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* The book about Tracy Evans is called Outrageous Courage: What God Can Do with Raw Obedience and Radical Faith. Not a sugar-coated do-good story, but a page-turning real life account of adventure and unabashed zeal. She is truly an exceptional being.

Patricia Saxton

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  • Trish

    September 7, 2014 at 11:43 am Reply

    Count me in too, Pat! Where have I been that I did not notice this project before?! Living in my own little fear-filled world. I am done with fear – that miserable, four-letter f-word! I want to be outrageously happy instead. Thank you my friend for the jump start! XO

    • Patricia Saxton

      September 7, 2014 at 12:15 pm Reply

      Oh, I’m so glad you found it, Trish, and you are welcome! The timing will be just right. Let’s go for it! xoxo

  • bulldogbillboards

    June 30, 2014 at 9:26 am Reply

    Pat – For the last year or so I have been working (on and off) on my happiness project. Gretchen Rubin’s The Happiness Project screamed at me a month or two into it while I was walking through a Costco store. Turns out, she put a year+ into her project and documented it. She then wrote Happiness at Home which is pretty good as well. I really appreciate her and have found a number of her YouTube videos that I like. There are also a number of Happiness books written (often by conservative radio hosts) too. Let me know if you have interest and I will shoot you a box of em from Texas.

    In the meanwhile, I will continue to dedicate a white board in my office to Rod’s Happiness Project and will not be at all surprised to see a few of your tidbits.

    I believe we owe it to the people in our lives to be as happy as we can be. Especially as it is the absence of happiness that affects so many. My chiro pal in NJ said it without much thought: Its simple: Identify the barriers to happiness in your life and remove them. (Easier said than done, perhaps a shot of your positive thinking practice with a hefty dose of adrenalin is in order)

    Good luck!

    • Patricia Saxton

      June 30, 2014 at 11:32 am Reply

      Hi Rod! Yes, there are many voices rooting, cheering, advocating, encouraging, and paving the way for more people to find happiness; some have crossed my radar (such as Gretchen’s), others, I’m sure have not, but it’s good work with right intention. Because it does seem “so simple” yet hard, we keep on, and I’m adding my version to the choir. Sometimes it seems we need to hear things over and over, repeated in different ways ~ just a subtle switch of words can affect one person more than another, a phrase can lodge into our psyche where another passed through. However it happens – let’s bring it on! Great to hear your thoughts and continued good luck with your very own Rod’s Happiness Project. 🙂

  • Bernadette

    June 29, 2014 at 11:42 am Reply

    Well, honey, once again I suspect we are stalking each other in the stars… in the realm of the creative, that is. I have been contemplating, of late, why we are not at peace more consistently. Outrageous, I know! My little twist leads me to confront the fears that pop up, especially during transitions. So, when I have a fear thought that starts to fester I catch it with … “Well, there’s a misuse of your imagination, Bernadette.” Followed by, “Can you think of a more fun use for that?” When fear comes knocking, to choose to be happy does feel outrageous sometimes. Or, as my ego (easing-god-out) likes to say, “Unrealistic.” So, WOOHOO, count me in outrageous star sister! I’m right behind you! XO

    • Patricia Saxton

      June 29, 2014 at 12:05 pm Reply

      Thank you, star sister. Here’s to the outrageously wonderful possibilities we haven’t even begun to imagine….! <3

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